One of you wants to work on saving the marriage, and the other is seeking a divorce. Does this sound familiar?

This is actually a very common relationship issue. In fact, in the world of Marriage and Family therapists, we call these couples “mixed agenda” relationships. They represent nearly 30% of clients who seek marriage counseling.

I am happy to offer a new approach to couples therapy specifically for mixed agenda couples. Discernment Counseling is a systematic approach to help both partners. The primary goal of Discernment Counseling is to help each partner gain clarity and confidence in their decisions. It also seeks to help the clients understand the dynamics of their relationships and how each person involved contributes to the current state of their marriage.

The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.

What Can I Expect From Discernment Counseling?

  • DC typically lasts between 1-5 sessions
  • Each session is 1-1/2 to 2 hours long
  • I will work with both partners individually
  • Both partners will feel clarity and confidence about their decisions moving forward.

Discernment Counseling is not suitable for...

  • When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
  • When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
  • When there is danger of domestic violence